Butterflies. Giggles. Blushing. Late night talks on the phone. Being taken out to dinner. Receiving flowers and chocolate. Sex. Sweet words. Cuddling. Ladies nights. Laughing with your friends.
Many of those are associated with love. If a man does those things for you he really loves you, right? Isn’t that what we believe? Could
there possibly be more to love than sex with a cute guy who says that you mean the world to him? What about when the butterflies fade and small things about
him start to bother you. What happens when he takes you to Wendy’s drive-thru for dinner rather than O’Charleys? Then there’s the time when he doesn’t feel like talking so long because he is tired all of a sudden. And Lord forbids he
stops giving as much affirmation about your relationship as he was in the beginning. What then? Is all lost and he has obviously fallen out of love with you? You and your best friend don’t talk as much as you used to. She is too busy to spend time with you. Sometimes it doesn’t seem like she is in a good mood and she takes it out on you. Or maybe you are having a rough morning and feel that
you are justified in lashing out on everyone who crosses your path.
What if I told that love is much more than those things. Love isn’t a ‘when I feel like it’ things. You literally have to decide to love someone and make a conscious effort to love them in truth and action regardless of how you feel. When we love based upon the definition that society gives we are constantly disappointed because others aren’t living up to our expectations
of what love is. God’s definition of love is much more demanding and much more fruitful when followed. The things that God calls us to do sound difficult to do in our own strength; therefore we must rely on the Holy Spirit to help
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says: “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own
way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
SHOW PATIENCE AND KINDNESS– when you are patient you quietly persevere through situation. You have a positive attitude in situations.
Example: if you are in an office waiting to be seen and it is taking a very long time for them to call your name. Patience and Kindness is not yelling at the office clerk but it is sitting patiently and waiting until you can be seen. Think positively in those situations that you have to wait and it will pay off.
You can exercise loving God by being patient with Him to answer a prayer that you have prayed. Whether it is for a job, a husband, financial blessing, etc.
NOT ENVYING OR BOASTING– by definition envy is being upset about someone else’s success or possessions; when/if you resent someone for what they have gained in life and want exactly what they have. Example: If your friend
always has the cutest shoes (stilettos or pumps) and you want every single pair of shoes that she has and/or you turn your nose up at her every time you see her thinking “ugh, she always has on new pumps and I don’t…”. Boasting is kind of the opposite. Everyone always to have know the new things that you have and about your new accomplishments. Boasting isn’t necessarily sharing news out of excitement but rather to show others that you are higher than they are because you have achieved something.
DON’T BE ARROGANT AND RUDE– these pretty speak for themselves.
DON’T BE IRRITABLE AND RESENTFUL– easily upset or angered; snappy. When you love someone they should not have to wonder if they can say something to you without you snapping on them. In order not to be irritable we must stay prayed up and practice patience in every situation. Sometimes irritability is a result of resentfulness. When you are harboring emotions of hurt from one person it builds up when you don’t forgive. So when you see them you are waiting for them to say the wrong thing so that you can snap and release those built up emotions. That is not wise.
DON’T REJOICE IN WRONGDOING BUT REJOICE WITH TRUTH– as I’ve saidin a prior blog “Christians are human”. Humans are sinful by nature. I’m sure that you have had someone in your life who was watching your life closely waiting on you to do something wrong so that they can hold it against you. Or maybe so that they can confirm with themselves that you make mistakes too. Love does not rejoice when someone messes up. We should build each other up and help one another with sin issues. If someone trips and falls you shouldn’t stand there and laugh, but go help them up and encourage them. We all sin.
BEAR, BELIEVE, HOPE AND ENDURE ALL THINGS– to bear means to hold firm. In all things when you love someone you stand firm with them regardless of what happens. As you ‘bear’ all things with them you have to ‘believe’ that things will things will get better because of the ‘hope’ that you have in Christ. Know that when you pray about a situation God is faithful to answer your
prayers with a ‘yes’, ‘yes but wait’ or ‘no’.
Remember that love is more than saying “I love you” ten times a day. It’s more than just being kind and patient when you feel like it. It’s way more than sex, laughs, flowers, inside jokes, etc. You literally have to be determined to loving someone. Oh, and the hardest part of love is that you have to do all of the things listed above REGARDLESS OF HOW THAT PERSON TREATS YOU.
You shouldn’t be rude to someone just because they are rude to you. That’s not love. Please don’t cuss someone out and roll your eyes at them because they did it you. That does not show the love of Christ.
Please ask any questions that you have. And/or let me know what topics you would like me to discuss deeper.
“Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.” –Romans 12:17
“If someone says, ‘I love God’, and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?” -1John 4:20
“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” –John 13:34-35
“…you shall love your neighbor as yourself.” – Galatians 5:14
“My little children let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.”-1John 3:18